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Recipe for Overcoming Fears

December 06, 2016 DR. SHARON BUCHALTER

Fears… What are fears? I searched the word “fear” on and I was given six different definitions on fear, but one stood out to me in particular and it happened to be the sixth one: anticipation of the possibility that something unpleasant will occur. For me, this definition is the most spot on because because it’s those possibilities of an unpleasant event occurring that keep people from doing what they really want. So, it’s time to face your fears. Here’s my recipe to Get Happy in 60 Seconds℠ and put you on the right path to overcoming those fears that have been haunting you!

Step 1: Realize that you have fears

The first thing that you must do is realize that you are human. And, as a human you are naturally fearful of many things. You are not indestructible and it’s completely okay to admit to yourself as well as to others that you do have fears.

Step 2: What are your fears?

Now that you realize that you do actually have fears, it’s time to identify what those fears are. They can be simple or they can be complex. They can be small or they can be big. You have to identify what scares you. You have to identify what fears keep you from getting out of bed in the morning. Fears of being alone? Fears of failure? Fears of never finding yourself? Whatever they are, identify them here.

Step 3: Think about why you have developed those fears

This step is one you’ll have to think about and really self reflect on who you are as a person. Everyone builds up fears in their mind for certain reasons. For many people it’s because they have thought a certain thing to be “bad” their entire life because that’s not the way they were taught. For instance, your parents may have engraved in your head that you must go to school, get a job, find a partner, and get married. But, what if that’s not the path you want to take…? Or, what if you have taken that path but now want to make a change?

Step 4: Combat the fear

So, you’ve found the fear and thought about why it may have been developed. Now, it’s time to make a change. It’s time to face your fear head on. Is your fear of mushrooms? Awesome, try a mushroom, it’s not going to kill you (unless you are allergic of course). Is your fear of roller coaster? Great, now go to an amusement park and hop on one! You get what I’m saying here. Face your fears.

Steps solved out for me:

Step 1: I know that I have fears. I am scared of many things and I have come to see and realize that

Step 2: For the sake of time (and your interest) I’ll chose one. I have a fear of being alone.

Step 3: I have never had to be alone. My parents spoiled me (I’ll admit it) for many years. Then, for as long as I can remember, I have been in a relationship. So, for me, being on my own is not something that I am used to.

Step 4: Learn to be alone, be alone, and embrace it.

I hope you enjoyed this piece on facing your fears because the sooner you face your fears, the better! Please leave some feedback, comments, or likes! Have an amazing day :)

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